How Do You REALLY Know?

Is it possible to really know who you're going to marry while dating in college? This question is the topic of at least one conversation a day with my class mates. I am a completely neutral party because I sincerely have no idea. I have never felt the cliché feeling of “you just know.” What does that mean? It seems impossible being 20 years old still figuring out who am and what I want to do with my life to truly know who I’m supposed to be with for the rest of my life. My parents always told me to wait until after college to really take a relationship seriously, but how do I do that when every person at Liberty University is searching for their spouse.

• How do you decide who will be your forever partner when you don’t even fully know yourself yet?


• Why do we take life so seriously in college?


• Why is singleness considered a burden in college?


• Ehow website consists of a short video that gives a small description on why singleness is a blessing while attending college.

I don’t feel like I know anything about love or how to maturely handle situations that you encounter in relationships. I’m not presently in a relationship because I feel the Lord has so much for me to learn before I’ll be suitable for the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. This is the only time of life where, I only have to worry about me and my happiness. I don’t have a family, husband, or real-life finances to boggle down all my time. This is a precious phase in my life to learn and grow in my relationship with Christ. Now don’t misunderstand, I desire true love some day, but am I really responsible or mature enough to cherish it and commit my heart? The boundless website discusses many things necessary to consider before deciding if it’s the right time for a serious relationship.

The Lord calls us to guard our hearts, but how do you truly love someone if you always have walls up? I’m beginning to think that people just say the cliché saying, “you just know” because they don’t know the answers to the real questions. After watching and living through heart-ache over the confusing question of whether the love was real; I’m beginning to wonder if my idealist way of living leads only to disappointment.

Wait. That doesn’t sound like faith in the God that passionately pursues my heart every day. No matter how many questions and doubts I have wising around in my head every day Christ always reminds me of his unfailing love. I may be considered a dreamer with unrealistic expectations, but it seems that I might just have to have faith in the cliché that someday I’ll just know and accept that love will never be logical. I’ve learned to stop planning my future and searching for my happiness in man. I find my security and identity in my first true love, Jesus Christ. This youtube video demonstrates God’s unconditional love for us; never let the desire for a relationship replace your pursuit of truly knowing Christ.

“Learning to sit still, Resting in His will,

Confident to abide, With Him by my side,

Resisting manipulation,

Waiting only for His stipulations.”

-Jackie Kendall